I have had times in my life where I had a lot more going on than I do, but managed to get more done because I was managing my time better. I know women with no job and no kids who can’t find 30 minutes a day to work out and I know women with several kids, a full time job, head of everything, involved in book clubs and church and team mom, and can still find the time to relax and watch an hour or more of TV every night. We all have the same 24 hours in a day and the great thing is that we get to choose how we spend it.
I work with athletes in my coaching business with all different lifestyles. From the college girl who is taking 18 credits and working full time to the single guy who works part time to the mom with 4 kids under 7, but really wants to complete an ironman.
I also work with men and women who want to build their own business and become an entrepreneur either full or part time.
And I have worked with my friends and family members, all with different lifestyles, on time management so that they can live their best lives, follow their dreams, or complete a big goal.
Basically what I am saying is that I have seen ALL scenarios and situations of figuring out time management and how to fit everything we want to do, be, and have into our short, short, too short 24 hour days.
I have read books and devoured programs on time management. I have tried so many different strategies and processes to fit it all in, but there is only one way that I have found (and helped others find) to have enough time to get in what is truly important to me (and them)…
JUST SAY NO!
You MUST say no to the things that don’t bring you joy. You must say no to the things that aren’t moving you in the direction you want your life to go. You must say no to the things you feel you “should” do, but don’t really “want” to do.
I know this is easier said than done, especially when it comes to your family and friends. You don’t want to hurt feelings, you don’t want to let anyone down, and you want people to like you and appreciate all you do for them.
But the more you do for others, the less you do for yourself. Every time you say YES to someone you don’t want to say yes to, you are saying NO to yourself. You may want to read that again. When you say YES to others, you are saying NO to yourself.
You are the only person you will be with from the day you are born until the day you die. You need to start saying yes to YOU! Yes to your dreams, your goals, you needs, your wants, and everything else you know you want in your life. It’s not selfish, it’s honorable. You are honoring yourself. And when you honor yourself you are teaching others to honor themselves. You are giving others permission to make themselves a priority.
This is NOT easy! But it’s imperative! So here is your homework…
START SMALL!!! Start with something that is easy. Something you don’t want to do and isn’t a big deal if you don’t do it.
Next time someone asks you for something you don’t want to do, just say NO! You can do it as politely as you wish. You can make any excuse you want. But just so you know you never need an excuse to say no to someone or something, but at the beginning feel free to make up an excuse to make it easier for you until saying no becomes easier for you.
I let my clients use me as their excuse. When they have a workout planned and someone asks for their time when they are scheduled to work out, I tell them to use me as an excuse. They can say “I can’t have lunch with you because I am meeting my trainer for a workout” or “I can’t talk right now because I have a call scheduled with my coach”.
Feel free to use me as your excuse for as long as you need/want to. Once you realize your true friends will respect you, your time, and your choices, you won’t need to make an excuse, you can just say no. That will free you up to say yes to the things you really want to say yes to. And then when you DO say yes to your friends, they will know how important they are and that you really WANT to be with them instead of feel like you HAVE to be with them!
Remember…baby steps! Start small. Work your way up to the big NOs like to your kids or your spouse or you mother-in-law.
Practice makes perfect!
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I am very passionate about this topic. I have been working on it for years. I’m not an expert, but I’m pretty darn close.
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