Homework: Be Brave

Homework: Be BraveThis past weekend I was racing in South Dakota. While riding my bike on the gorgeous Iron Mountain Highway in Custer State Park, I made a decision that I wanted to simplify my life EVEN MORE than I already had so I could train and race all the time to feel the way I did in that moment. I have been struggling to get rid of some of the “stuff” I have left in the 5 bins I still store and cart around with me everywhere I go.

But being excited about living more simply so I can race and train more, made it easy to get back home and start tossing stuff!!

This also got me thinking about emotional baggage and holding onto people, places, jobs, habits, and relationships that no longer serve us but we struggle to let go.

Here is what I came up with…

The more excited and passionate you are about the outcome (or potential outcome) from what you are giving up or changing, the easier it is to let it go.

So I started thinking about the things that have been hard for me to let go of, give up, or change. I then thought about what the end result would be. I asked myself “on a scale from 1-10, how excited am I about this end result”? If it was an 8 or higher, it was easy to make the change, if it was any lower, it was a struggle.

I wanted to share this with you guys in case you have something that is hard to let go of, hard to give up, or hard to change. Go through the process I just described and see where it takes you!

If your “why” is lower than an 8, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s not important to you. You many need to re-think why you want to do it or maybe it’s not something that you’re ready to let go of or ready to change in your life RIGHT NOW! And that’s OK.

We’re not always ready to make those big changes in our life.

If it’s something that’s important to you, you’ll find a way when you’re ready to get excited and get passionate about it and make the change.

If it’s FEAR holding you back or the UNKNOWN (2 things that hold most people back) I just want to share one of my fave quotes: Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.

Will it always work out the way you want it to? Probably not. But is it always worth it? IMO yes!

I always learn something about myself in the process which moves me closer to self-love, my ideal life, and being the best version of myself I can create.

If you are ready to make a change in your life whether it’s in your finances or your health or your fitness or your relationship or just loving yourself more and you need some guidance, I can definitely help!!

I have coached hundreds of people just like you who are ready to make a change but not quite sure where to start. My philosophy is baby steps, one day at a time, small incremental changes over time that will result in big life changes!

I offer coaching calls anywhere from 15 minutes to 60 minutes depending on how much time you have and how much guidance that you want to help you go from where you are now to where you want to be.

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Baby Steps: Discipline

Baby Steps: Discipline... People seem to think because I typically eat healthy, I get all my training in and work out daily, and I race a lot as an athlete, that I am a very disciplined person.In my line of work, the health, fitness, and nutrition industry, and as an athlete, the word discipline gets thrown around all the time. People seem to think because I typically eat healthy, I get all my training in and work out daily, and I race a lot as an athlete, that I am a very disciplined person.

I don’t believe that anyone is naturally a more disciplined or undisciplined person.

I believe that discipline is a skill that we can all practice, learn, and get better at.

The other day at the pool, I was thinking about the concept of discipline. I was breathing on “twos”, which for you non-swimmers out there means that I was breathing to the right side every time my head and body turn to the right (ever 2 arm strokes). This isn’t the most effective or efficient way to swim, but for me it’s the easiest. A harder way is to breathe on threes or fours or fives or sixes which means I have to hold my breath longer and breathe on opposite sides (called bilateral breathing), which for me means I have to work a little harder and focus a little bit more.

So I challenged myself to breathe on threes or fours for the entire next set and I kept saying to myself “practice discipline in the small things in your life so that it’ll be easier to be disciplined in the big things in your life”.

Practice discipline in the small things so that it will be easier in the big things. So basically in the grand scheme of life it really doesn’t matter if I breathe on twos, but breathing on threes or fours is more of a challenge so I am practicing discipline.

Then when something that actually matters in life comes up, such as skipping a work out or doing the work out, I have practiced and gotten better at discipline and it will make it easier for me to just do the work out rather than skip it.

So here is your homework for today:

Throughout the day, if there something that you think you should do or that could move you toward the life that you really want (but maybe don’t really feel like doing it), I challenge you to do it.

Even if it’s something super simple and small such as choosing a salad over French fries as your side dish at the drive-through. Or choosing water over soda at the gas station when you’re thirsty. Or if you’re trying to save money, filling up your water bottle with tap water instead of buying it. Or choosing to park far away from the office instead of close so that you need to walk a few extra steps. Or choosing to turn off the TV after one show and get an extra half an hour of sleep. Or choosing to set your alarm without the snooze option to get up and get your day moving. Or choosing to adding spinach in your shake for breakfast in the morning. Or choosing to say no to something that isn’t that big a deal but you really didn’t want to do it. Etc, Etc, Etc!! GOT IT?

Once you get used to being disciplined in the small seemingly insignificant choices that you make each and every day, when a big or more important decision comes up, it will be easier for you to choose wisely it’ll be easier for you to be disciplined in that choice as well.

I would love to hear about your tiny successes just like mine I had in the pool the other day, because your successes in being disciplined in the small things AND the big things will inspire me and others to start making better decisions and choices in their own lives.

We all need the inspiration and motivation to be disciplined, if it was an easy choice it wouldn’t be called discipline!

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Homework: Share Your Story

Homework: Share Your Story ... One of the things I have been working on this year is being more transparent. By transparent I mean sharing my struggles and failures as well as my triumphs and successes.One of the things I have been working on this year is being more transparent. By transparent I mean sharing my struggles and failures as well as my triumphs and successes.

This has always been a challenge for me because I grew up in a very positive house where we focused on all the things that were right in our lives and didn’t give attention to our problems.

I also get annoyed with people who complain all the time and don’t do anything to change what they are complaining about, or complain to the wrong person, someone who has no authority to help or change the situation, and I don’t want to be one of those people. So typically when I’m having a tough time or a low self-esteem day, I stay quiet and work it out on my own.

This year when I made the commitment to share more, the good, the bad, and the ugly, I didn’t know what to expect. I thought for sure people would be irritated by my insignificant, first world problems and my annoying petty issues I have with food, self-worth, inner conflict, and body image. But I found the more I shared my experiences, the more people reached out to me to share their own experiences.

I remember I had a crappy workout one day and shared about it on Facebook and someone messaged me and said “I’m so happy to see you have crappy workouts too”. This made me laugh and I didn’t know whether people wanted to see me fail or if they were just so used to seeing me so positive it was refreshing to see that I struggle too.

I think all we really want is to know we aren’t alone. To know we all share common fears, struggles, and feelings. That we are all connected and we all essentially want the same things in our life: unconditional love and peace within ourselves.

Since the beginning of my year of sharing more of the hard stuff, I have had so many people tell me how much my stories, posts, experiences have helped them share their own. And if you know me, my mission is to help people just by being me. So in essence, the more I share about my life, the more I am living my mission.

And the same goes for you. You are here to connect and grow and be a part of something amazing. And the best way to find where you fit in while helping others feel worthy and supported and loved is to share your stories and experiences, whether positive or negative.

One rule I do have about sharing the bad stuff: I must be actively doing something to change the situation. Bitching about something you have control over and don’t ever work toward changing in my opinion is just plain annoying.

So be brave today! Share a battle you have been secretly fighting, share a success you have been too humble to share, share something unique about yourself that you are afraid you will be judged for and watch what happens. People will surprise you. You may even surprise you!
Let me know how it goes!!!

THANK YOU!

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Homework: Let It Go

Homework: Let It GoLet it go! This is my only goal today! I woke up feeling overwhelmed and anxious!

Like I have way more to do than I will ever have time to get it done. Like I keep making promises to myself and others that I can’t keep. Like I’m barely staying above water and I can’t breathe!!!

I remember something I read in Brian Tracy’s book Eat That Frog…

You will never have enough time to do everything you want to do. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you can let go of the expectation and forgive yourself for not doing it all!!

I was of course paraphrasing since I haven’t read that book in 15 years, but that concept has stuck with me over the years!

Here are some things I do when I’m feeling this way…

  • Breathe…DEEPLY!!
  • Write down 10 things I am grateful for
  • Prioritize my day, week, month, year, life
  • Reach out to a supportive friend
  • Focus on what I can control and let go of the rest!

Number 5 is super hard for me! But practicing letting go of what we can’t control will make it easier and habitual. I just need to remember to practice!

OK! I feel a little better!

Hope it helps you today!!! What can you let go of today????

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How to Get Through a Hard Day

How to Get Through a Hard Day... Today I had a hard day. I woke up anxious and overwhelmed after about 10 weeks of moving through life at 100% on hardly any sleep, living off of adrenaline and Shakeology.Today I had a hard day. I woke up anxious and overwhelmed after about 10 weeks of moving through life at 100% on hardly any sleep, living off of adrenaline and Shakeology. I have been too tired to focus on my businesses and making money, which in turn has left me dipping into my savings the past few weeks to live.

This has created anxiety, which makes me eat more, which makes me feel sluggish and full and fat, which frustrates me and takes too much of my energy. This makes me tired. And the cycle continues!

Your hard days may look different, much different, but we all have hard days. We all have days where we feel hopeless and desperate and scared. Some days are worse than others, but the negative feelings are always there.

Mine typically make me question my abilities, discipline, and/or choices. This usually leads me down a path of low self-esteem, questioning my self-worth, and asking myself questions like “will I ever be enough?” and “why can’t I make this work?” and “what is wrong with me?” and the worst of them all “will anyone ever love me the way I want to be loved?”

All these questions make me sad when I stop to think about them because 1) I don’t want them to matter as much as they do, and 2) I want to love myself so unconditionally that anything else is just a bonus!

Anyway…my point is, yours looks different than mine, but it all ends in the same way…THIS SUCKS!

So today I dragged my tired, grouchy ass to the gym and sat on the bike to spin out my sore legs on level 0 (yes, that is ZERO! Who knew the bike even went down that low. I guess to accommodate losers like me right??)

I had a grand plan to spin for an hour while I got SO much work done! I even made a list of like 10 things I was going to get done while spinning out my legs at the gym today. I was excited to finally get my shit together. Didn’t happen! I got on Facebook instead and decided to put out a cry for help.

I went to my timeline and posted:

Help! I’m having a low self-esteem day and need you!! Comment something you like about me!!

In 2 hours I had over 50 comments. Many were from people I didn’t know who told me I had touched their life in some way or another. Several were people who sent me reminders of why I should love myself, and some just said the things they liked about me.

I spent the entire hour (plus one more) responding to each comment and taking in everything that was said to me. It picked me up and reminded me all I had to be grateful for.

It worked!

I left the gym feeling 100% better about myself than when I walked in. And for once it didn’t have to do with my work out, it had to do with the amazing people I have attracted into my life. Another reason to be grateful!

Next time you are feeling bad about yourself, try it! Reach out to the people in your life and let them remind you why they love you! And then pay back the favor when they need a pick me up. No one on this earth can thrive without the love and support of those around them.

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Suck It Cosmo!

Suck It Cosmo!So today in my mailbox was an issue of Cosmopolitan Magazine. It was put in my mailbox by mistake as it had a neighbors name/address on the label. The cover was AMAZING and completely started to suck me in!

Not only was it hot pink, there was a super sexy bad ass chick on the cover (Ruby Rose), the #1 way to tell if he is into you, “hot-body secrets”, and their biggest sex Q&A EVER!!! So many things I need to see and know and read and judge myself and my life against…and of course failing miserably in ALL departments!

In the past, I would have devoured this issue of Cosmo. I would have taken an hour out of my day and read it cover to cover, lingering on the pics of the hotties and coveting their eyes, lips, hair, wardrobe, and especially bodies.

I used to be OBSESSED with women’s magazines. I had subscriptions to at least 10 fashion, gossip, teen, etc magazines and would spend time every day looking through them, taking the quizzes, comparing my life, looks, body, and experiences to those the women shared between the pages.

But today (thank goodness), I have the will power to say NO! Don’t get me wrong. I considered opening it up and taking a peek! At least to see pics of Ruby Rose or find out if “he” is truly into me, no harm done RIGHT? Wrong! I know myself and how far I have come with my self-worth, loving myself unconditionally, and my confidence, and I know this could potentially be a disaster.

Even if it wasn’t a disaster, it may be a gateway mag to the next one I “accidentally” pick up at the hair salon or the doctor’s office. Which would compound my short-comings and over time I may slide back into my old world of self-loathing and desperation to have someone else’s skin, body, clothing, sex life, career, or life. But I said NO!

It was a therapist I had in college that first approached me with the idea of quitting watching “Days” (Days of Our Lives #embarrasing) and reading women’s mags. I was able to give up “Days” pretty easily after a couple years (thank god we didn’t have DVR back then or it may have been harder to quit), but the magazines were a harder habit to break. It took me about 10 years to finally let go of the need to see how amazing everyone else is and how lame I was.

I did cut down on reading the magazines, but when I would travel or at the gym or in the waiting room, I couldn’t help but pick up the issue and take a peek.

It never ended pretty. I always closed the magazine feeling less confident then when I opened it. So I stopped all together.

I haven’t been tempted for a while before today and I am happy to say I resisted! I am happy with my decision and put it back into the mail slot for the real owner, hoping she doesn’t have the same past issues as I do and the magazine doesn’t make her feel less of a person by reading it.

If you are doing something or watching something or looking at something or reading something on a regular basis that doesn’t make you feel good, STOP! We are hard enough on ourselves as it is. No need to add fuel to the fire!

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My NEW Morning Routine

My New Morning Routine... I have been working on morning routines for years. I want something that gets a lot of “bang for my buck” and sets me up for successes all day long without having to wake up TOO early. I have been crafting my current routine for the past 2 months. Fine tuning it to see what is effective AND efficient, and I finally came up with one.I have been working on morning routines for years. I want something that gets a lot of “bang for my buck” and sets me up for successes all day long without having to wake up TOO early. I have been crafting my current routine for the past 2 months. Fine tuning it to see what is effective AND efficient, and I finally came up with one.

I have only been doing the ENTIRE routine for a week, but have been doing bits and pieces for the past 8 weeks so I finally found a way to fit it all in.

I first got interested in developing a morning routine after listening to a talk about “The Artist’s Way” about 4 years ago. Since then I have read and listened to other people’s morning routines, and have tried mimicking several. I even wrote a blog post about my new morning routine a couple years ago, so apparently this is my New new morning routine!

Most of the successful people I want to emulate in my life to become more successful myself have a standard morning routine. It varies from person to person, but always stays consistent with his/her personal goals, priorities, and philosophies. When your goals change, so does your morning routine. But what does stay the same is consistently doing it day after day after day.

So here is my new morning routine…

1. Meditate for 20 minutes: I use the guided meditation app “Headspace”

2. Stay in bed for a couple minutes and think about 10 things I am grateful for while snuggling with Joey (my dog)

3. Oil pull: basically swishing coconut oil around in my mouth for a few minutes…an Ayurvedic practice that improves oral and systemic health

4. While oil pulling, I watch “Darren Daily” video (personal growth)

5. Yoga for 20 minutes: I use the 3 Week Yoga Retreat videos (www.facebook.com/groups/YogaForNewbies)

6. Walk a mile/run a mile with Joey (listen to podcast for personal growth)

7. Make my Shakeology (protein shake) with Amazing Greens and Almond Milk (www.FoodFitnessFinanceFun.com/Shakeology)

8. Drink it while writing for 10 minutes

9. Take a deep breath

10. Have an amazing day!!

It’s still a practice and some days (like today actually) I have to cut some part of it short due to either unforeseen circumstances or I was just moving too slowly (like today).

As long as your morning routine makes you excited to get out of bed and start your day off right, it’s a great one for you! I would LOVE to hear about your morning routine as I know mine is ever changing and I like suggestions!

Hope this is helpful.

Grateful for YOU!

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Why Does Rejection Hurt So F-ing Bad?

Why Does Rejection Hurt So F-ing Bad?So I am lying in my bed right now with tears falling down my face. I can’t stop crying. I feel SO stupid because it’s really no big deal. I don’t know what my problem is. I thought if I started writing, maybe I can figure out why I am so sad right now.

Maybe it’s because as a kid I never felt like I fit in anywhere. I wanted to be part of a group, but never found one where I could be myself. Maybe it’s because when I tried to be one of the popular girls in high school and tried out for cheerleading, they basically laughed at me and told me I wasn’t even close.

Maybe it’s because in college when I applied to be an RA they selected everyone I knew except me.

Maybe it’s true that deep down all we live for is connection to others and a sense of belonging. Or maybe it’s just because I felt like this was the year I was finally going to make the team.

I don’t need to go into detail, but here’s a short recap. 3 years ago I applied for a triathlon team because I loved their mission, their tag line, their logo, and their clothing. I felt like their company truly embodied who I was as an athlete and a person. It was a long shot as I knew I was taking the next year off from triathlon, but decided to apply anyway since I was doing a lot of swimming and running. I wasn’t surprised that I didn’t make it, so it was no biggie.

The following year I applied again. This time I had a FULL season of triathlon ahead, I knew a few girls on the team, and I was much more active on social media. I had been wearing several of their products and since I post a lot on Facebook and Instagram, there were a ton of pics out there with me supporting their brand. I thought I had a good chance of making the team. I didn’t. And I was surprisingly sad. I didn’t tell anyone I applied or that I was rejected, so it was my little sad secret. I shed a few tears, but decided I would just try again next year.

This year I raced over 50 races in their clothing. I promoted their brand and product constantly live and online, and met tons of their team members at races, expos, and through social media. I had people tell me I embody their mission and tagline and would be perfect on their team. When I applied this year I kept thinking “third time is a charm” (now that I think of it, I have no idea what that even means, but whatever). On the app they ask for all our social media info, this gave me even more hope since my accounts are flooded with pics of me wearing their brand.

Tonight I saw the list of the new team for next year, and I didn’t make the cut. Again. At first I was a little bummed, but no biggie. But then I started thinking about why they didn’t pick me (they don’t tell us why), and my stupid brain shifted into overdrive and all these “I’m a loser” and “I’m a failure” and “Nobody wants me” thoughts consumed my head. WHAT? Where did these even come from? I couldn’t remember ever thinking I was a loser, or a failure, or unwanted? I know I am a good athlete and a good person. I know I have people out there who love and want me. I didn’t know where this was coming from.

Then I remembered all the times I did think these thoughts in other areas of my life. As a wife, as a “mother”, as a business woman, as a leader, with my finances, with my eating, with my self-discipline.

SHEESH! Now that I think about it, I am a regular failure. I AM a loser! I don’t deserve to be part of a team, I would only let them down.

I can’t be the only one who feels this way from time to time, so I wanted to share with you the reason I was so shocked at how hurt I was. I thought I had overcome all these horrible thoughts and beliefs I had about myself. I used to think these thoughts on a daily basis, and I used to believe them whole heartedly. With time, patience, self-love, and personal growth (reading and listening to books to help me understand myself more and move toward the person I want to be), these thoughts and feelings have lessened. So much, in fact, that I thought they were gone, until tonight. Being rejected by the team I thought I was destined to be on, brought back all those old feelings of worthlessness and shame.

At first I was SO embarrassed that I got upset and cried over this seemingly insignificant incident, I would have NEVER shared this in the past, but now that I have had some time to reflect, I am glad it happened.

It was a great reminder not only of how far I have come, but also how far I still have to go. I never want to stop learning about myself and becoming a better and better version of myself. It also reminded me how important it is to include people in my life.

I posted something on Facebook immediately after my rejection and had several people respond with their story. Many were also denied and hurt about it. I even had a dozen people send me private messages sharing with me how they are sorry for me but not to be discouraged as I am an amazing person and athlete without the team. It reminded me how supportive people are and it made me want to be a better person for them. It also reminded me that we are not alone, that I do belong to a prestigious club with all the people I touch in some way every single day. I don’t need to be part of a team to be surrounded by my peeps who love me.

I am grateful for those of you who love me for me! And I hope by reading this you know that YOU are an incredible human being. And we don’t need approval or acceptance by any outside entity to be deserving of love and acceptance and worth. One of my FAVORITE quotes can sum this entire post up:

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. – Eleanor Roosevelt

Now go out in the world with your head held high and be the amazing, compassionate, loving, full of life BAD ASS you know you are! And I will too!

Love you!

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What is Most Important to You?

What is Most Important to You?I was listening to a guided meditation this morning on the Headspace app and he asked the question “What is most important to you?” I repeated the question several times to myself but an answer didn’t come. Well, several answers came, myself, my husband, my family, making money, losing weight, saving money, my businesses, being a great athlete, inspiring others, being true to myself, my dog, sleep, eating healthy, my mind went on and on.

Luckily, the guy doing the guided meditation kept me focused (thanks Andy) kept asking the question so I could focus and re-ask myself “What is most important to you?” No single answer came.

It made me realize I haven’t been taking the time to focus on my priorities and what is most important to me, and that is why I have felt so scattered and unfocused in my daily activities the past 2 months.

I have lists and schedules and I’m frantically trying to get as much checked off as possible during the day, but I feel like nothing is really getting done.

I know I’m not alone in wanting to fit 30 hours of stuff into a 24 hour day, but the truth is, it’s just not possible. I want to add my new things (yoga, meditation, morning routine, running, eating raw, etc.) into my life, but not willing to give up any of my things I am already doing.

Impossible! I can’t add water to a cup that is already full without losing some of the water. And by water I mean my mind! Sometimes I feel like I am losing my mind.

I don’t like to complain about losing my mind because I know there are so many people out there who have far more to complain about than I do, but I know I can talk to you guys because you get it. Thank you by the way!!

Anyhoo…back to what is important!!

I am grateful for this reminder to sit down and make some time to set my priorities for the month. This makes decision-making easy and helps with focus throughout the day.

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Because I was pondering this question today, I switched some things around in my day so that I was giving time and energy to what is most important to me right now in my life. And I feel SO much better.

And got a lot done today!!

If you ever wonder what your priorities are, look at your life. Whatever is getting the most attention will show up most prominently.

So take a few minutes today and think about (or even better, write about) what is most important to you. Then take action and craft your days, weeks, months, and life around your priorities.

In one day, I can already see and feel a difference.

Good thing I made my meditation app a priority and listened this morning!

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Meditation for Non-Meditators

Meditation for Non-MeditatorsI have been telling myself for years (ok decades) that I want (and need) to meditate. I had a regular meditation practice from age 4-14 and then I let it go. I came from a family of TM (Transcendental Meditation) practitioners and it was normal to wake up to my mom and dad sitting in bed meditating every single morning. If we wanted something we would have to wait until their 20 minutes of bliss was over.

Since I grew up around meditation, I never thought it was weird or different, I just didn’t see the value in it, which is why as a teenager I stopped. I needed that time to “Aquanet” my hair into a wall of fuzz or to change outfits 6 times before heading to school. And on the weekends ‘The Smurfs’ and ‘Alvin and the Chipmunks’ was on super early, and that definitely trumped any silly meditation practice.

Well, as always, hindsight is 20/20 and I wish I would have never gotten out of practice as now it is hard to get back into a practice.

So here I am almost 30 years later working to make it part of my morning routine.

Over the past 10 years I have tried several different types of meditation, usually coming back to TM, and usually only lasting a couple weeks. But every time I want to give up, I listen to another podcast or read another story with someone I admire who says one of the most important parts of their day, and a non-negotiable in their daily routine, is meditation. So I try again.

One of my fave podcast hosts, Rich Roll, who has the most amazing guests on his show, also talks about his struggle with meditation. Funny thing is that his wife is like super meditator and I imagine meditates several times for long periods throughout every single day.

About 18 months ago Rich had the creator of the HEADSPACE app, Andy Puddicombeon, on his show talking about guided mediation and how to make it a regular part of your day. It was a great podcast and I uploaded the app immediately!! But that was as far as I got.

Earlier this year I needed more space on my ancient phone to make a video, so I deleted all the apps I wasn’t using, including Headspace.

But guest after guest on his show, when asked about their morning routine, included meditation as an integral part of their success in life.

So 2 months ago, while talking with my friend Katie, who was also failing at starting a meditation practice, I uploaded the app (again) and committed to a start date. After all, the beginning guided meditations were only 10 minutes, and free! No brainer!

We started a Facebook group and invited some of our friends to join us. I excitedly started on Day 1 and loved it. Short and sweet, simple, I liked the guy’s voice, I’m in! I took me a month to do the first 10 days.

What? Total failure!! I suck at this!

But when Katie (who a month in was only on Day 3) told me how much she sucked at meditation and that she can’t even get through the 10 mins and felt like a total failure, it sounded so silly! Sucking at a meditation practice, failing at listening to a guided mediation, being a crappy meditator? Those were all things I told myself and believed them, but hearing Katie say them out loud made me realize how ridiculous I sounded.

So I told her (and myself) it’s called a practice for a reason, it takes time and patience to sit there and ignore all that is going on around us, it takes discipline to make it a habit, and it takes focus and commitment to let yourself, even for 10 minutes, let go of thoughts, lists, schedules, responsibilities, and chatter.

Plus the guy doing the guiding is super forgiving and lets us have a minute of freedom to think whatever we want at the end…like recess!!!

The next day I started back up with day 11, and another month later, I am on day 19. Baby steps!!!

But this time I am more gentle and understanding with myself and my crazy brain that won’t turn off.

This time I know I will get there…eventually!!!

My goal this month is 3 times a week. I am up to the 15 minute meditation so I take 45 minutes a week to train my brain to sit quietly in the moment and be still and open to the greatness I will become.

You don’t have to be great, you just have to start!!

Here is the link to the app I use…

https://www.headspace.com/headspace-meditation-app

Here is our Facebook group if you want support…
https://www.facebook.com/groups/meditatewithme/

Here is my newsletter if you want to stay connected…

http://www.FoodFitnessFinanceFun.com/newsletter

See you soon! Om.