Usually when I am overwhelmed and busy, I overeat and I gain weight. This is why over the past 10 years I have worked so hard at creating a life that gives me more time so that when things get busier, I feel less overwhelmed. Smart right!! And in general it has been working out well over the past couple years.
This month, however, got a little out of control. I got cocky in November since I wasn’t really training and my businesses were manageable, so I started coaching swim team 3 nights a week. Loved it! Then I picked up 2 yoga classes justifying it by saying that I needed yoga (which I do) but they were also at night. So going into the new year, I was now busy 5 nights a week.
I also went into 2016 with big goals! Bigger than the past 2 years, but I had a plan and felt good about it.
I know January would be busier in general because I was officially starting my triathlon season so I was adding in a couple more workouts, Valentine’s Day makes my Passion Parties biz busy in January and February, and my Beachbody biz is crazy in January because it’s health and fitness coaching and with all the New Year’s resolutions I was swamped. But all these were expected so it was no biggie.
Well 11 days into the month I got an email saying Pure Romance bought Passion Parties effective immediately! At first I was too shocked to do anything, after all, Pure Romance was always our “enemy”!
After the initial shock wore off, I wanted to make a video or my team to help them understand what happened. And from there the phone calls, texts, and emails were endless. For the next 10 days I was on the phone at least 6 hours a day and had to fit that in around my already busy schedule. I did let a couple things go which I had to make up the following week so another crazy week of no sleep, hoarse voice, and a roller coaster of emotions.
Fast forward to 3 weeks later (phew) things are starting to get back to my normal busy January. I am beyond excited about the acquisition and am more into my biz than ever!! I have kept up with my training and Beachbody business but have not done anything above minimums (which I hate because that turns me into “normal”) and yes, I have over eaten every single day for the last 3 weeks.
So I weighed myself this morning like I always do, convinced the scale would say at least 1 kilo more than yesterday (yes I weigh in kilos. It’s a trick I accidentally started when my scale switched on me and I couldn’t figure out how to switch it back. I noticed I’m not triggered by those numbers like I would be with pounds, so I kept it), but I didn’t!!!
So it got me wondering…what have I done differently this time to not have gained the weight like I normally do?
I want to share this with you in hopes that it helps SOMEONE break their cycle of disordered eating! In hope that one person reads this and says “I’m going to try this next time I binge because I trust Kirsten and it worked for her.” I know this is a long shot because when I was in the throws of unhealthy eating patterns in the past, I got this message loud and clear from peers, therapists, and even mentors I respected like Geneen Roth, but it never “took”.
Here it is! Here is the magic pill. Here is the advice I can now give because it actually worked for me…
After a binge or day of overeating, eat normal the next day!!!!
I know that sounds silly to some of you who may have never had issues with food, but for those of us who have, that advice is scarier than hell! Because we think our normal eating is what got us to this place we don’t want to be at! We think we gained 6 pounds yesterday and to counteract that we need to lose 3 today and 3 tomorrow. We think if we eat normal it’s just going to turn into a binge at some point so we skip breakfast, eat a salad for lunch, and then overeat again at dinner time and say “I told you so”.
Here is what I did differently this time…
I would go to bed feeling disgusting (oh my patient husband…I love you), mad at myself for overeating or bingeing right before bed, and hopeless because I’m 43 frickin years old and this shit has got to end at some point right???
But no matter how crappy and puffy and full I felt, I would drink a quart of water with lemon essential oil before bed. I added the lemon because it’s “cleansing” and in my head I just wanted all this crap out of my body. I don’t know if it works that way, but it made me feel better so I kept it up.
The next morning I would get up and drink another quart of lemon water right out of bed. I was usually still full from the night before, but did it anyway.
Within the hour, I would eat a banana whether I was hungry or not. And within the next hour the mixture of water and banana usually got my metabolism up enough so that I was starting to physically get hungry so I would drink a protein shake (I drink vegan chocolate Shakeology). I like the shake because it’s delicious and healthy and only 170 calories so I feel good drinking it even when I feel fat or like I shouldn’t be eating.
Then I continue on my typical meal schedule of eating every 2-3 hours. Lunch was typically salad or veggies and snacks were fruit, veggies, chips, and/or Zevia. I will admit I have completely OD’d on Zevias this past 3 weeks but I am ok with that for now.
Dinner was a little tricky! Since I now work nights I don’t get home until 8pm. I’ve been eating my dinners early before I leave with the plan of coming home at 8 and having a small snack while my hubby eats dinner and then we hang for a while before bed. This is where I am having issues. I come home tired, overwhelmed, with still a long list still to complete, and want to hang with him, so instead of a snack, I eat a full meal plus snack all while still being full from my dinner earlier. And this has repeated itself every night for 3 weeks.
This is what I am currently working on! Next week my plan is snack before I leave in the eve, bring one with me in case I need it during, and then be hungry for dinner when I get home.
But here is the good news…
I have been completely overwhelmed for the past 3 weeks and have not gained weight like I have in the past. I am so proud of myself for being more aware than usual, for thinking clearly instead of emotionally, and for making my physical and mental health a priority instead of the lazy thinking of “just let it go, you can go back to taking care of yourself when all the madness ends!”
Because guess what my friends? The madness will never end until you end the madness!
I love you!!
See you soon!!