This has always been a challenge for me because I grew up in a very positive house where we focused on all the things that were right in our lives and didn’t give attention to our problems.
I also get annoyed with people who complain all the time and don’t do anything to change what they are complaining about, or complain to the wrong person, someone who has no authority to help or change the situation, and I don’t want to be one of those people. So typically when I’m having a tough time or a low self-esteem day, I stay quiet and work it out on my own.
This year when I made the commitment to share more, the good, the bad, and the ugly, I didn’t know what to expect. I thought for sure people would be irritated by my insignificant, first world problems and my annoying petty issues I have with food, self-worth, inner conflict, and body image. But I found the more I shared my experiences, the more people reached out to me to share their own experiences.
I remember I had a crappy workout one day and shared about it on Facebook and someone messaged me and said “I’m so happy to see you have crappy workouts too”. This made me laugh and I didn’t know whether people wanted to see me fail or if they were just so used to seeing me so positive it was refreshing to see that I struggle too.
I think all we really want is to know we aren’t alone. To know we all share common fears, struggles, and feelings. That we are all connected and we all essentially want the same things in our life: unconditional love and peace within ourselves.
Since the beginning of my year of sharing more of the hard stuff, I have had so many people tell me how much my stories, posts, experiences have helped them share their own. And if you know me, my mission is to help people just by being me. So in essence, the more I share about my life, the more I am living my mission.
And the same goes for you. You are here to connect and grow and be a part of something amazing. And the best way to find where you fit in while helping others feel worthy and supported and loved is to share your stories and experiences, whether positive or negative.
One rule I do have about sharing the bad stuff: I must be actively doing something to change the situation. Bitching about something you have control over and don’t ever work toward changing in my opinion is just plain annoying.
So be brave today! Share a battle you have been secretly fighting, share a success you have been too humble to share, share something unique about yourself that you are afraid you will be judged for and watch what happens. People will surprise you. You may even surprise you!
Let me know how it goes!!!
And thanks for being you…all of you…not just the good bits!!
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See you soon!