The Pretty Girl Book Club IS BACK!!! June 2018

The Pretty Girl Book Club IS BACK!!! June 2018Our June 2018 Book Club book is “You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life” by Jen Sincero.

“It’s not your fault that you are f*cked up, but it IS your fault if you stay f*cked up”

-Jen Sincero, musician, comedienne, self-help angel, no BS coach, and author of “You Are A Badass”

Category: Self-Help/Personal Growth

I have read this book a couple times before, but not in a couple years and I have been feeling like I am losing my confidence and power in my life. I thought this book would be a great jump back into personal growth and development after a hiatus. It’s an easy read, the chapters are short, and it packs a lot of important info into a small package.

The synopsis of the book on Amazon.com sums it up as…

YOU ARE A BADASS IS THE SELF-HELP BOOK FOR PEOPLE WHO DESPERATELY WANT TO IMPROVE THEIR LIVES BUT DON’T WANT TO GET BUSTED DOING IT.

In this refreshingly entertaining how-to guide, bestselling author and world-traveling success coach, Jen Sincero, serves up 27 bitesized chapters full of hilariously inspiring stories, sage advice, easy exercises, and the occasional swear word, helping you to: Identify and change the self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviors that stop you from getting what you want.

Create a life you totally love. And create it NOW, Make some damn money already. The kind you’ve never made before.

By the end of You Are a Badass, you’ll understand why you are how you are, how to love what you can’t change, how to change what you don’t love, and how to use The Force to kick some serious ass.

The book is 256 pages long.

Here are a few words from others who have read this book…

“What an amazing book! Had a dear friend give it to me… and now I’ve given it to a dozen or more friends! It’s a must read!”
-Lisa

“Love this book – and her follow-up, You Are a Badass with Making Money!”
-Susan

“I love the way she is super no-nonsense and straight forward with her advice. I also love that the chapters are super short!”
-Robin

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Baby Steps: Discipline

Baby Steps: Discipline... People seem to think because I typically eat healthy, I get all my training in and work out daily, and I race a lot as an athlete, that I am a very disciplined person.In my line of work, the health, fitness, and nutrition industry, and as an athlete, the word discipline gets thrown around all the time. People seem to think because I typically eat healthy, I get all my training in and work out daily, and I race a lot as an athlete, that I am a very disciplined person.

I don’t believe that anyone is naturally a more disciplined or undisciplined person.

I believe that discipline is a skill that we can all practice, learn, and get better at.

The other day at the pool, I was thinking about the concept of discipline. I was breathing on “twos”, which for you non-swimmers out there means that I was breathing to the right side every time my head and body turn to the right (ever 2 arm strokes). This isn’t the most effective or efficient way to swim, but for me it’s the easiest. A harder way is to breathe on threes or fours or fives or sixes which means I have to hold my breath longer and breathe on opposite sides (called bilateral breathing), which for me means I have to work a little harder and focus a little bit more.

So I challenged myself to breathe on threes or fours for the entire next set and I kept saying to myself “practice discipline in the small things in your life so that it’ll be easier to be disciplined in the big things in your life”.

Practice discipline in the small things so that it will be easier in the big things. So basically in the grand scheme of life it really doesn’t matter if I breathe on twos, but breathing on threes or fours is more of a challenge so I am practicing discipline.

Then when something that actually matters in life comes up, such as skipping a work out or doing the work out, I have practiced and gotten better at discipline and it will make it easier for me to just do the work out rather than skip it.

So here is your homework for today:

Throughout the day, if there something that you think you should do or that could move you toward the life that you really want (but maybe don’t really feel like doing it), I challenge you to do it.

Even if it’s something super simple and small such as choosing a salad over French fries as your side dish at the drive-through. Or choosing water over soda at the gas station when you’re thirsty. Or if you’re trying to save money, filling up your water bottle with tap water instead of buying it. Or choosing to park far away from the office instead of close so that you need to walk a few extra steps. Or choosing to turn off the TV after one show and get an extra half an hour of sleep. Or choosing to set your alarm without the snooze option to get up and get your day moving. Or choosing to adding spinach in your shake for breakfast in the morning. Or choosing to say no to something that isn’t that big a deal but you really didn’t want to do it. Etc, Etc, Etc!! GOT IT?

Once you get used to being disciplined in the small seemingly insignificant choices that you make each and every day, when a big or more important decision comes up, it will be easier for you to choose wisely it’ll be easier for you to be disciplined in that choice as well.

I would love to hear about your tiny successes just like mine I had in the pool the other day, because your successes in being disciplined in the small things AND the big things will inspire me and others to start making better decisions and choices in their own lives.

We all need the inspiration and motivation to be disciplined, if it was an easy choice it wouldn’t be called discipline!

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Homework: Share Your Story

Homework: Share Your Story ... One of the things I have been working on this year is being more transparent. By transparent I mean sharing my struggles and failures as well as my triumphs and successes.One of the things I have been working on this year is being more transparent. By transparent I mean sharing my struggles and failures as well as my triumphs and successes.

This has always been a challenge for me because I grew up in a very positive house where we focused on all the things that were right in our lives and didn’t give attention to our problems.

I also get annoyed with people who complain all the time and don’t do anything to change what they are complaining about, or complain to the wrong person, someone who has no authority to help or change the situation, and I don’t want to be one of those people. So typically when I’m having a tough time or a low self-esteem day, I stay quiet and work it out on my own.

This year when I made the commitment to share more, the good, the bad, and the ugly, I didn’t know what to expect. I thought for sure people would be irritated by my insignificant, first world problems and my annoying petty issues I have with food, self-worth, inner conflict, and body image. But I found the more I shared my experiences, the more people reached out to me to share their own experiences.

I remember I had a crappy workout one day and shared about it on Facebook and someone messaged me and said “I’m so happy to see you have crappy workouts too”. This made me laugh and I didn’t know whether people wanted to see me fail or if they were just so used to seeing me so positive it was refreshing to see that I struggle too.

I think all we really want is to know we aren’t alone. To know we all share common fears, struggles, and feelings. That we are all connected and we all essentially want the same things in our life: unconditional love and peace within ourselves.

Since the beginning of my year of sharing more of the hard stuff, I have had so many people tell me how much my stories, posts, experiences have helped them share their own. And if you know me, my mission is to help people just by being me. So in essence, the more I share about my life, the more I am living my mission.

And the same goes for you. You are here to connect and grow and be a part of something amazing. And the best way to find where you fit in while helping others feel worthy and supported and loved is to share your stories and experiences, whether positive or negative.

One rule I do have about sharing the bad stuff: I must be actively doing something to change the situation. Bitching about something you have control over and don’t ever work toward changing in my opinion is just plain annoying.

So be brave today! Share a battle you have been secretly fighting, share a success you have been too humble to share, share something unique about yourself that you are afraid you will be judged for and watch what happens. People will surprise you. You may even surprise you!
Let me know how it goes!!!

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Haters Gonna Hate

Haters Gonna Hate! Years ago, I would have reacted the same exact way after reading my story on GoFundMe... basically, since I was unhappy with myself and my life, everyone else’s life annoyed me.“People will love you. People will hate you. And none of it will have anything to do with you.”
– Abraham Hicks

This is one of my fave quotes. I didn’t used to believe it, I’m so glad I do now!

Today I got three “hate” emails from people I don’t know regarding my “GoFundMe” campaign I set up to help me get to Kona, HI for the Ironman World Championships.

I was surprised at first when I read the emails because I didn’t know women my age actually took the time and energy to write hate mail, but then again, I don’t know exactly how old they are, I have no idea who these 3 women (girls?) are.

My first response was to email them back and defend all the things they were saying (how selfish I was begging for money to go to Kona for a second time, that there are people out there who are really struggling, and what a horrible person I was for giving up my relationship for a triathlon, etc, etc, etc), but then I thought about how I really felt about what they were saying to me and instead of defending myself, I wanted to hug them and tell them everything will be ok for them in the end.

Years ago, I would have reacted the same exact way after reading my story on GoFundMe (www.gofundme.com/kirtokona). I used to get so mad at people with big houses (why do they need such a big house), skinny women (why don’t they eat more), fat women (why don’t they eat less), stay-at-home moms (get a job), people who called in sick to work (suck it up), people who made a lot of money (pay more taxes), people who didn’t make any money (get a job), and so on and so on and so on!

Basically, since I was unhappy with myself and my life, everyone else’s life annoyed me.

So today I sent hope to these women that they too would soon love themselves more, I deleted the emails, and I gave myself props for coming so far in my own life.

One of the books that helped me the most in the area of “not taking things personally” is the Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz. #promo

This is one of my all-time favorite books for personal growth and I have read it several times. In fact, I make a point to listen to the audio on one road trip a year! Just as a reminder.

In the book, he goes into detail about why we shouldn’t take anything personally. The 3 main things he discusses are…

If we are hurt by what people say about us, there is a part of us that believes it is true (truth)
The things people judge us for have more to do with them than with us (see my examples above from the “old” me)

We can only be the best version of ourselves and do the best we can with what we know and where we are at in our lives. We can control what we do, say, have, etc, but not how other people feel, react, etc to us. If I am truly living the best version of me, nothing anyone can do or say to change that, especially when they don’t know me.

And the fourth thing I would add to this list that has helped me the most is to love myself more! Always always love myself more. The more I love myself, the less I care about what people think of me. Loving myself is the greatest gift I have ever given to myself.

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Self Help Homework: Just Say No

Self Help Homework: Just Say No... One of the things I hear all the time is "I don't have time". Time is an interesting concept. We all have time. We all have the same amount of time. And we all get to choose how we spend our time.One of the things I hear all the time is “I don’t have time”. Time is an interesting concept. We all have time. We all have the same amount of time. And we all get to choose how we spend our time.

I have had times in my life where I had a lot more going on than I do, but managed to get more done because I was managing my time better. I know women with no job and no kids who can’t find 30 minutes a day to work out and I know women with several kids, a full time job, head of everything, involved in book clubs and church and team mom, and can still find the time to relax and watch an hour or more of TV every night. We all have the same 24 hours in a day and the great thing is that we get to choose how we spend it.

I work with athletes in my coaching business with all different lifestyles. From the college girl who is taking 18 credits and working full time to the single guy who works part time to the mom with 4 kids under 7, but really wants to complete an ironman.

I also work with men and women who want to build their own business and become an entrepreneur either full or part time.

And I have worked with my friends and family members, all with different lifestyles, on time management so that they can live their best lives, follow their dreams, or complete a big goal.

Basically what I am saying is that I have seen ALL scenarios and situations of figuring out time management and how to fit everything we want to do, be, and have into our short, short, too short 24 hour days.

I have read books and devoured programs on time management. I have tried so many different strategies and processes to fit it all in, but there is only one way that I have found (and helped others find) to have enough time to get in what is truly important to me (and them)…

JUST SAY NO!

You MUST say no to the things that don’t bring you joy. You must say no to the things that aren’t moving you in the direction you want your life to go. You must say no to the things you feel you “should” do, but don’t really “want” to do.

I know this is easier said than done, especially when it comes to your family and friends. You don’t want to hurt feelings, you don’t want to let anyone down, and you want people to like you and appreciate all you do for them.

But the more you do for others, the less you do for yourself. Every time you say YES to someone you don’t want to say yes to, you are saying NO to yourself. You may want to read that again. When you say YES to others, you are saying NO to yourself.

You are the only person you will be with from the day you are born until the day you die. You need to start saying yes to YOU! Yes to your dreams, your goals, you needs, your wants, and everything else you know you want in your life. It’s not selfish, it’s honorable. You are honoring yourself. And when you honor yourself you are teaching others to honor themselves. You are giving others permission to make themselves a priority.

This is NOT easy! But it’s imperative! So here is your homework…

START SMALL!!! Start with something that is easy. Something you don’t want to do and isn’t a big deal if you don’t do it.

Next time someone asks you for something you don’t want to do, just say NO! You can do it as politely as you wish. You can make any excuse you want. But just so you know you never need an excuse to say no to someone or something, but at the beginning feel free to make up an excuse to make it easier for you until saying no becomes easier for you.

I let my clients use me as their excuse. When they have a workout planned and someone asks for their time when they are scheduled to work out, I tell them to use me as an excuse. They can say “I can’t have lunch with you because I am meeting my trainer for a workout” or “I can’t talk right now because I have a call scheduled with my coach”.

Feel free to use me as your excuse for as long as you need/want to. Once you realize your true friends will respect you, your time, and your choices, you won’t need to make an excuse, you can just say no. That will free you up to say yes to the things you really want to say yes to. And then when you DO say yes to your friends, they will know how important they are and that you really WANT to be with them instead of feel like you HAVE to be with them!

Remember…baby steps! Start small. Work your way up to the big NOs like to your kids or your spouse or you mother-in-law.

Practice makes perfect!

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Suck It Cosmo!

Suck It Cosmo!So today in my mailbox was an issue of Cosmopolitan Magazine. It was put in my mailbox by mistake as it had a neighbors name/address on the label. The cover was AMAZING and completely started to suck me in!

Not only was it hot pink, there was a super sexy bad ass chick on the cover (Ruby Rose), the #1 way to tell if he is into you, “hot-body secrets”, and their biggest sex Q&A EVER!!! So many things I need to see and know and read and judge myself and my life against…and of course failing miserably in ALL departments!

In the past, I would have devoured this issue of Cosmo. I would have taken an hour out of my day and read it cover to cover, lingering on the pics of the hotties and coveting their eyes, lips, hair, wardrobe, and especially bodies.

I used to be OBSESSED with women’s magazines. I had subscriptions to at least 10 fashion, gossip, teen, etc magazines and would spend time every day looking through them, taking the quizzes, comparing my life, looks, body, and experiences to those the women shared between the pages.

But today (thank goodness), I have the will power to say NO! Don’t get me wrong. I considered opening it up and taking a peek! At least to see pics of Ruby Rose or find out if “he” is truly into me, no harm done RIGHT? Wrong! I know myself and how far I have come with my self-worth, loving myself unconditionally, and my confidence, and I know this could potentially be a disaster.

Even if it wasn’t a disaster, it may be a gateway mag to the next one I “accidentally” pick up at the hair salon or the doctor’s office. Which would compound my short-comings and over time I may slide back into my old world of self-loathing and desperation to have someone else’s skin, body, clothing, sex life, career, or life. But I said NO!

It was a therapist I had in college that first approached me with the idea of quitting watching “Days” (Days of Our Lives #embarrasing) and reading women’s mags. I was able to give up “Days” pretty easily after a couple years (thank god we didn’t have DVR back then or it may have been harder to quit), but the magazines were a harder habit to break. It took me about 10 years to finally let go of the need to see how amazing everyone else is and how lame I was.

I did cut down on reading the magazines, but when I would travel or at the gym or in the waiting room, I couldn’t help but pick up the issue and take a peek.

It never ended pretty. I always closed the magazine feeling less confident then when I opened it. So I stopped all together.

I haven’t been tempted for a while before today and I am happy to say I resisted! I am happy with my decision and put it back into the mail slot for the real owner, hoping she doesn’t have the same past issues as I do and the magazine doesn’t make her feel less of a person by reading it.

If you are doing something or watching something or looking at something or reading something on a regular basis that doesn’t make you feel good, STOP! We are hard enough on ourselves as it is. No need to add fuel to the fire!

YOU ROCK! And you know it!

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The Four Agreements

The 4 Ingredients The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is one of my ALL TIME favorite books. Not only is a great guide for living your life, but also for running your business, especially if you are in network marketing like I am!

Here is a brief synopsis: “Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, the Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives and our work into a new experience of effectiveness, balance and self-supporting behavior.

Everything we do is based on agreements we have made. In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, what everything else is, how to act, what is possible and what is impossible. What we have agreed to believe creates what we experience. When these agreements come from fear, obstacles develop, keeping us from realizing our greatest potential.

Most of the agreements we made were as children so many of us as adults are trapped in beliefs that no longer serve us. Some are so outdated that they make our lives much harder than they need to be and in turn we feel trapped and unhappy. Suffering has become “normal” for us. By following these four agreements, we will be free from our past outdated agreements and free to live the life we choose to live.”

Here are the Four Agreements:

BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Most of us use our words negatively whether toward ourselves or others such as gossip, negative self-talk, and discouragement. We often say things to ourselves and others out of anger, frustration, and jealousy.

Always use your word for good. Always tell the truth.

DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own issues. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

If you take something someone says to you personally, it is because you believe it to be true, you agree with what they are saying/doing to you.

When you take things personally, you create conflict because you have the need to defend yourself.

When you take something personally it’s because a part of you believes it is true.

You are NEVER responsible for the actions of others, only for the action of yourself.

DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

We make assumptions about almost everything. The problem with making assumptions is that we believe them to be the truth.

We make assumptions because we don’t have the courage to ask questions. One way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions. Keep asking until you know the truth.

You always have the right to ask anything and people always have the right to say yes or no. Just as people have the right to ask you anything and you have the right to answer yes or no.

The day you stop making assumptions, you will communicate clearly and cleanly and you will be free of the emotion and drama attached to assumptions.

ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST

Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you are healthy as
opposed to sick, awake as opposed to tired, and happy as opposed to sad. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret.

As you grow and change, you best will become better.

When you do your best you never have regrets and you can love and accept yourself for exactly who you are.

Always take action.

Here is how the Four Agreements relates to your business and practical steps you can take to help make your biz…and your life…easier. BONUS!!

Agreement 1 ¬ BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD

Most importantly, to be impeccable with your word is to never use it against yourself. Putting yourself down will stop the creative process in your business. With others, speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Your word is your bond ¬ you will create consistency in the delivery of your service or product, and create a trust with your clientele, empowering you to expand. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth.

Write down one time in your business where you used your word negatively or someone used their word negatively against you. How did it make them/you feel? What could you have done/said differently?

Agreement 2 ¬ DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY

In business, especially as a leader, you have to let things roll off your back – nothing others do to you or say to you is because of you. It is their perception or belief. Being attached to your opinion is where freedom is lost. When you are immune to the opinion of others, you can clearly focus on your objective and¬ avoid the drama.

Write down a time in your business where you took something personally. How did it make you feel? If you didn’t take it personally, how would it feel different?

Agreement 3 – DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS

It is critical to your business to communicate with others as clearly as you can with your intentions to avoid misunderstandings. Also, have the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want from your consultants, hostesses, and customers. You will see huge strides in your business success when you do this.

Write down one example in your business where you made an assumption. How did it affect the outcome? How would the outcome be different had you NOT made that assumption?

Agreement 4 ¬ ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST

Always do your best at the moment. You will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. Plus, think of how amazing your business would be if you truly always did your best!!

Write down one thing you want in your business. Have you been doing your very best to get it? What can you do differently so you make sure to get it? Are you taking action? How would it feel to know you did everything in your power to get to where you wanted to go?

NOW WHAT?

Here is how you can start applying these to your life and your business. Pick one agreement that you will focus on for the next 30 days, I would pick the one you feel is your weakness. Write down three things you are going to do differently this month in that area. After 30 days, pick the next one and so on. After 4 months I would repeat, again starting with your weak link (it may have changed after the four month period).

These four agreements take practice, awareness, commitment and time. But if you always do your best at them, you will start to see amazing things happen in your life and your business.

I have been practicing the four agreements for about ten years now and my life is getting easier and easier. My advice to you is to take a risk and love yourself. Live your life to the fullest. Say yes when you want to say yes and say no when you want to say no.

Honor yourself

Love yourself

Respect yourself

And always always do your best.

YES!

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The Pretty Girl Book Club: February 2015

The Pretty Girl Book Club - February 2015“You are not crazy. Many women struggle with low sexual desire.” – Laurie J Watson

Our February 2015 Book Club book was “Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover your Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage” by Laurie J. Watson.

Category: Relationships/Sex

I chose this book for super selfish reasons. I have been struggling with my libido, painful intercourse, and shame and how they have affected my marriage over the past 10 years. I was feeling desperate and needed to get some ideas on how I could heal my body and mind over this emotional and embarrassing issue.

I went to Amazon.com and searched “sexless marriage” and 758 results came up…apparently it’s more common than I thought! PHEW!

The synopsis of the book on Amazon.com sums it up as…

If you feel like sex just isn’t worth the effort, you’re not alone. Forty million American women are frustrated by their lack of sexual passion. They know something’s missing—and their husbands know it, too—but the emotional, physical, and mental obstacles to healthy desire can be a knot that seems too tangled to unravel.

Drawing on twenty years of clinical experience, Laurie Watson shows that it really is possible to restore the thrill of sex, using proven psychological methods and personal accounts from actual therapy sessions.

Her strategies will:

  • Offer a glimpse into the reality of other people’s bedrooms
  • Address the sexual problems that can develop with life changes—from marriage to motherhood to menopause
  • Uncover the hidden factors that impact desire—stress, cultural messages, emotional connection, chemical and hormonal challenges, physical appearance issues, and more
  • Show how joyful, meaningful, satisfying sex can be yours again

Candid, practical, and much needed, this book can help you rediscover your sexual self or discover it for the first time. Instead of dreading bedtime, you can look forward to it again.

The book is 349 pages long and has an index in case you want to skip ahead to you own issues or read about a specific topic first. I recommend reading everything as I had several “a-ha” moments throughout the entire book as Laurie uses examples and dialogue from her clients…and we all pretty much have the same issues at the core!

The book covers EVERYTHING I can think of that could cause a relationship to become “sexless” so it’s a great resource for any woman who feels like it’s her fault, like she is damaged or broken, like there is something wrong with her…whether it is him making her feel that way or her doing it to herself.

For me personally, it’s always nice to know I am not alone! And that there is HOPE.

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How I Became A Morning Person

How I Became A Morning PersonIf you know me, you know I am NOT a morning person by nature! As a kid I missed the bus at least once a week because I could not get my little butt moving pre-dawn.

As I got older I chose swimming as my primary sport which consisted of early morning practices all week AND early morning meets every weekend. My body never adapted.

When I started my career as a personal trainer, I had to work when I was needed…before and after work. This meant many more years of 4am alarm clock to be excited to motivate tired clients by 5am.

And then as an adult I chose a hobby (triathlon) that training AND races typically cater to the early riser.

For big races, the transition area opens at 5am which means you have to wake up, eat, get ready, load all your crap, and travel to the venue all before sunrise. Still never became a morning person.

In fact, #357 reason why I never had kids was because the thought of having to get up early…and often…gave me massive amounts of anxiety!

As much as a personal growth junkie as I am, I have heard interviews with dozens of the most successful people in the world and one thing they all have in common is they are early risers. So part of me has WANTED to be a morning person to join the ranks of the world’s most inspiring, motivational, enlightened, successful, and happy people. I mean…who wouldn’t want that. But you can’t always get what you want.

And when I forced myself to get up early, my productivity, workouts, eating, and focus would suffer and I would end up needing a nap early afternoon to compensate, which took up my precious daylight hours I had to get my stuff done.

To make matters worse I never got into the whole coffee or tea drinking thing so not only do I not like waking up early, but once I’m up I have nothing to perk me up and get me revved up to rock my day!

I felt like I had tried everything! So I just accepted I would never be a morning person.

We’ll guess what? I am now a morning person!! “How did you do it?” You ask? I’ll tell you my secret…it’s pretty unbelievable actually…here it is…wait for it…

I go to bed super early!! What? That’s it! Yes! That’s it! Do I have to sacrifice some habits I used to have?

Of course! Did I have to give up some things I did before? Yep! We ALL only have 24 hours in a day, and we all have 100% control on how we choose to spend ours.

Not by choice (initially), we started going to bed super early. I mean like asleep before 9pm. In order to do this I had to shift my work schedule, change my eating schedule, and eliminate some things from my day to accommodate my new life. It’s never easy to give up activities you like or think you need, but the rewards are worth it.

Since we have been going to sleep early, I am getting enough rest (I need a lot…which is another reason I never thought I could get up early) and waking up before sunrise. This allows me to get busy work done at a time where there are few distractions, which allows me to get done more quickly and get to my work out sooner, which gives me energy to get started with my productive work as soon as most people are up and running.

This allows me to reach more people, build my businesses, make more connections, and make more money. This provides me with more money to buy nutrient rich and delicious foods to keep my energy up all day. An upward spiral of success FOR SURE!!

I even have time to clean a bit everyday (which I never used to have time for…well, it was always the first thing I gave up when I got busy), make my hubby dinner every night, and read or write a little as I am unwinding. We also watch a movie before we go to sleep every night and are STILL ready to pass out before 9pm most nights.

I know what some of you are thinking…

“But I have to do this…”

“But I have these responsibilities…”

“That won’t work for me because…”

“She’s so lucky she has control of her schedule…”

And so on and so on.

We all have control of our schedule. We all have the same number of hours in a day. We all decide what our priorities (are if you need help with yours, click here

It’s not easy, I had to make sacrifices, but as I am heading into my 2nd month as a newborn in the world of “morning peoples”, I am already seeing the positive effects it is having in my own life and I am excited to see where I will be a year from today.

What I am saying is that, to me, it is worth making the changes, no matter how difficult and impossible they seemed at the time. This doesn’t have to be an “over-night” change, but small changes over time equal big successes!!

Yahoo!!

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Business: Stealing is Caring…So get your GEBY on!

Business: Stealing is Caring...So get your GEBY on!I was listening to the James Altucher podcast yesterday where he was interviewing AppSumo’s Noah Kagan. Noah was talking about how he pulled himself out of a funk by using GEBY (more on that in a sec) and James said he was stealing it. Noah then said “stealing is caring” and after I added my own mantra “caring is sharing” I decided to share with MY friends this “big secret” that helped pull Noah out of depression and hopelessness.

I have been doing something VERY similar that I call my KICK ASS MORNING ROUTINE, but I really want to share GEBY because it emphasizes something that I do automatically (so I don’t need to add it to my routine) but MOST people (especially women) do NOT do.

GEBY stands for…

G-gratitude

E-exercise

B-breakfast

Y-YOU!

I find when I set up a positive morning routine, the rest of my day just feels brighter and more productive. And I want that for all of you…especially since it hurts my heart to see so many of my peeps in pain.

I double dog dare you to try GEBY for 21 days and see how your life improves.

1. Gratitude. Be grateful and thankful for everything you already have in your life. Even if it seems small. Living in the RV makes me appreciate 2-ply thick TP and long hot showers, but I am still grateful I can have a lesser version of each, every single day of my life!

Every morning immediately when you wake up, write down at least ONE thing you are grateful for. I typically do this at night, but I like the idea of being grateful in the morning, before anything “happens” during the day for you to be grateful for…just BE grateful. Today I was grateful for the perfect sleeping weather the late summer mornings in Colorado bring.

2. Exercise. Moving and getting your blood pumping first thing in the morning will give you more energy during the day to get stuff done! Plus, it revs up your metabolism AND wakes you up better than coffee. OK…I can’t prove the coffee thing…but there are no negative side effects of exercise.

After you list what you are grateful for, exercise. This can be taking your dog for a walk, going for a 10 minute jog, doing a workout DVD (PiYo is my new fave), or just doing pushups or jumping jacks in your living room. No excuses! It doesn’t have to cost money and you don’t even have to leave your home! This morning I walked to the park and back.

3. Eat Breakfast. You have all heard it before…breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Studies show those who eat a healthy, nutrient dense breakfast make healthier food choices for the rest of their day. Sounds like a no-brainer to me!

My favorite is Chocolate Vegan Shakeology. I mix it with water so it is cheap, fast, easy, with very little clean up. If something takes me more than 2 minutes to make, eat, and clean, I KNOW myself and will not do it. Some other options I like are: fruit/veg smoothie, whole fruit, natural PB and J on seeded bread, or a raw food bar like Pro Meal. This morning I had more time so I went wild and had a shake with Vegan Chocolate Shakeology, Vegan Vanilla Refresh (protein powder), Almond Butter (bought before the recall), Alkalinize (green powder), Cacao Powder, Ice, and Water.

4. YOU! This is the one I wanted to spend most time on. You are the ONLY person you are going to be with from the time you are born until the day you die…SO TAKE CARE OF YOU! Plan at least one thing every single day that is nourishing, loving, and caring for YOU. It’s not selfish to do things for yourself. The very best way to have the capability to care for others is if your needs are taken care of first.

I find when talking with others, especially women, they typically put themselves last on their “to-do” list. And we all know what happens to the last things on our list right?? It NEVER gets done! I suggest making a list of ALL the things you love to do that feel good to you. And then make sure each and every day you do at least one of those things.

If you are having a hard time coming up with something, here are some of mine…

Nap, massage, walk, shower, plan, organize, text a friend, chill out on social media, get rid of things, watch a movie, listen to a podcast, eat Indian food, walk my dog (RIP Sammers), work on my schedule, meditate, write, read articles, hug my hubby, and anything that has to do with personal growth.

So depending on how much time you can carve out in the morning, this may look a little differently for each of you. If you are super busy (which most of you are), you may do 1 gratitude, 10 jumping jacks, toss down a banana and raw food bar, throw something that you LOVE to do into your schedule and you are off to have a FABULOUS day! That will take you 5 extra minutes and can have a profound effect on the rest of your day. IMO you have nothing to lose and everything to win. Who is willing to go for it?

Oh I LOVE a challenge! I challenge you to do this for 21 days. Post your results. What is easiest for you? What is hardest? And don’t forget that SHARING is CARING so share this with a friend who can use a little “pick me up” today!

If you need a reminder to post daily gratitude, join my free group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/IHeartGratitude/