Our February 2015 Book Club book was “Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover your Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage” by Laurie J. Watson.
I chose this book for super selfish reasons. I have been struggling with my libido, painful intercourse, and shame and how they have affected my marriage over the past 10 years. I was feeling desperate and needed to get some ideas on how I could heal my body and mind over this emotional and embarrassing issue.
I went to Amazon.com and searched “sexless marriage” and 758 results came up…apparently it’s more common than I thought! PHEW!
The synopsis of the book on Amazon.com sums it up as…
If you feel like sex just isn’t worth the effort, you’re not alone. Forty million American women are frustrated by their lack of sexual passion. They know something’s missing—and their husbands know it, too—but the emotional, physical, and mental obstacles to healthy desire can be a knot that seems too tangled to unravel.
Drawing on twenty years of clinical experience, Laurie Watson shows that it really is possible to restore the thrill of sex, using proven psychological methods and personal accounts from actual therapy sessions.
Her strategies will:
- Offer a glimpse into the reality of other people’s bedrooms
- Address the sexual problems that can develop with life changes—from marriage to motherhood to menopause
- Uncover the hidden factors that impact desire—stress, cultural messages, emotional connection, chemical and hormonal challenges, physical appearance issues, and more
- Show how joyful, meaningful, satisfying sex can be yours again
Candid, practical, and much needed, this book can help you rediscover your sexual self or discover it for the first time. Instead of dreading bedtime, you can look forward to it again.
The book is 349 pages long and has an index in case you want to skip ahead to you own issues or read about a specific topic first. I recommend reading everything as I had several “a-ha” moments throughout the entire book as Laurie uses examples and dialogue from her clients…and we all pretty much have the same issues at the core!
The book covers EVERYTHING I can think of that could cause a relationship to become “sexless” so it’s a great resource for any woman who feels like it’s her fault, like she is damaged or broken, like there is something wrong with her…whether it is him making her feel that way or her doing it to herself.
For me personally, it’s always nice to know I am not alone! And that there is HOPE.
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